The tragic high-profile suicides in the past few days have brought a lot of sadness to all of us. A longing to understand. A desire to have helped in some way. A wish that this wasn’t the outcome of lives well-lived.
We may never know what someone else is going through behind the scenes. People close to us may be experiencing something similar, and we have no idea. It serves as a reminder for all of us that checking in with our loved ones is important. They may not be in a space to ask for help, but we can offer our support and a listening ear so they don't have to ask. Now more than ever, this is critical.
Our words and actions can have a bigger impact than we realize. This isn't about fixing other people, it's about holding space for them when they need it most. It's about listening and caring. Having compassion and being kind. This is the greatest way we can show our love for others.
For anyone that may be suffering right now, from my heart to yours:
I know what it feels like to be under the weight of a pain so severe that you can't see past this moment. To not be able to get breath into your lungs, and even when you do, it feels like you’re gasping for more. All you want is to make the pain stop. I know the fog you are under. You make it through your daily routine, and nobody knows what you’re going through because you haven’t shared it with anyone. I know the numbness and the hopelessness. That shroud of darkness follows you wherever you go.
I understand, and I’m so sorry. I want you to know that you are not alone.
I know this all feels bigger than you, bigger than you can handle. But there is a way out, even if you cannot see it. There is no shame in talking to someone, seeking help, or taking medication. You may think that nobody will understand what you are going through. But please know that there is someone who knows and understands you.
Please don't give up. I know you don't think you have the strength to make it past this, but I promise that you do. You are stronger than you realize. You are so important. You are valued, and you are loved. And you are not alone in this. You are going to get through this and have joy again.
All my love,
If you or someone you know is experiencing depression, or suicidal thoughts, please reach out to one of these resources. They are available 24 hours, 7 days a week.
In the United States:
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Free & confidential emotional support for people in suicide crises or emotional distress. Available 24/7.
If you’re in San Diego, California:
San Diego County Health & Human Services
Adult Emergency and Crisis Services
Trained counselors can help with health services available in San Diego County. Available 24/7.
It’s Up to Us Crisis Line
The It’s Up to Us campaign is designed to empower San Diegans to talk openly about mental illness, recognize symptoms, utilize local resources and seek help.
Canada Suicide Prevention Service
Residents of Quebec